Doctors in the Netherlands back euthanasia in severe dementia case
Very few places around the world allow for voluntary euthanasia or physician-assisted suicide (the difference being that in the latter case the patient has to take the pills if/when they choose), and that seems a bit puzzling. Nowhere in the United States allows for euthanasia and only three states, Washington, Oregon, and Montana, allow assisted suicide.
Supposed “morals” and cultural influences be damned — people should have a right to die. Our unwillingness to consider a person’s final wish is especially puzzling and gut-wrenching when you read some the heartbreaking stories from those who wish they could have made the same choice for their loved one as the woman in the news item above but were instead forced to make them suffer as the law currently mandates.
As someone who has lost my dad to cancer and having to have my 13 year old dog put down last week the irony of this hit me hard. I was devastated by both but sadly the dog had a less painful and more dignified ending and that really bothers me a lot.
My dad died at home and I am thinking I should have just morphined the shit out of him and just watched him peacefully go instead of the fucking horrific ending he had to endure. If I had it to do again I would put half that bottle under his tongue and hold his hand like I did my dog and watch him go off in peace.
If you’re ever in that position and think you will feel guilty for “killing” them I can tell you you will feel worse for not having helped them end it after the shock of it all is over.
This one’s even worse:
My babydog also died at age 13. She stopped eating and drinking and could barely stand. I carried her to the emergency vet on Christmas day only to learn her clotting factor was so low she was in danger of hemorraging. I could have treated her but her chances of survival were very low. I held her in my arms while the vet put her down. I told her I loved her and she went peacefully with minimal pain.
My grandfather died 9 years previously. He stopped eating and drinking. He told us he did not want to live. He was suffering from complications of diabetes. He whittled down to 118 lbs. My family ignored his wishes and the doctors lopped his leg off bit by bit. He was fed via a feeding tube. He was in terrible agony. He mercifully died after the third amputation. He had no dignity and was essentially tortured.
If someone says they want to die, why are we so arrogant to insist that they don’t know what they’re talking about? Even if you’re religious, the idea that “God creates and ends all life” ceased to be relevant the moment we developed the technology to prolong a painful or vegetative “life” indefinitely. Mere existence is not living.
At the very least it’s good that we do allow for loved ones to stop medical treatment in cases where conditions clearly aren’t going to improve and the only thing keeping them alive are the tubes and machines they’re attached to. I was there when my parents made the decision to turn off the life support of the only grandfather I knew. We stood around the bed and watched him go. It was terribly sad, of course, but there comes a point when the mental anguish of watching someone never get better is too much for a family to endure.






